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Have you ever felt personally stigmatized or targeted in a negative way because of your T1D?
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Two work incidents. The first, I was never included in after work celebrations or happy hours. I couldn’t help but hear my colleagues as they made arrangements. FInally, one day I asked a colleague/friend if I had offended anyone etc. She said no. I then asked why I was excluded from office socializing. She said people had talked about it, but thought I shouldn’t go where I might be tempted to “mis-behave”. I told her I had been living – thriving actually – with T1D for decades. I knew what to do and what not to do. I also menatined that what was important wasn’t the cocktails or the food – it was the sense of comaraderie and friendship that was of value. I said I’d be happy with a refillable cup of coffee. The next time I was invited.
The second was overhearing a middle mgt dept head discussing me with an upper mgt person. The dept head said she didn’t understand why I was even hired, much less the promkotions I had earned. When asked why, the dept head said that I was irresponsible. When asked how she arrived at that conclusion, the dept head said that, after all, I had diabetes, explaining that “everybody knows that diabetes is self-inflicted”. If I couldn’t/wouldn’t take care of my health, how could I be trusted to manage multi-million $ portfolios. I wish I could have stuck around to hear the end of that conversation. The upper level mgr was married to a person with T1D. I certainly hope that something was said. It did explain why I wasn’t offered many career development training opportunities.
@Trina Blake. Personally, ma’am, I find it shameful that people in positions of ‘authority’ don’t seem to have the intelligence to find out more about diabetes, especially when they’re employing someone that is. The fact that the Management person was also married to a Type 1 diabetic makes it even more dumbfounding. I also find it shameful that diabetes-related organisations [organizations] don’t do more to educate people about the differences between Type 1 and Type 2 diabetes. (Wait for the requests to fund this initiative. 😉 )
I’m so sorry that you were subjected to that! Isn’t it amazing how lack of understanding and information are promoted in our world, especially in positions of authority over others.
We often get donuts or other edible items at work. I get the “Oh, you can’t have that,” from coworkers or management. I tell them that’s what insulin is for and eat it.
@Aaron ardonthorn5. That’s sad, sir. I used to get the same sort of words from people that I worked alongside, though an explanation of how insulin works tended to dissuade them from forwarding incorrect statements … at least, to my face. Unfortunately, I also get the same words thrust at me by my wife, and we’ve only been living together with my suffering with type 1 for the last 40+ years.
Yes. When on the job.
My husband does this alot but he also does it with my other health problems. He treats me like a disease cause he’s type 2 and no matter how much my endocrinologist tells him I’m not contagious I’m treated as I need to be in a bubble cause I am.
@Twinniepoo74. I’m so sorry to ‘hear’ what you’re saying about your partner/husband, ma’am. It’s exactly the same with my wife, and to a lesser extent, my youngest brother, who also happens to be type 2. You would expect that, before our near and dear ones comment, they’d at least take the time to find out with whether they’re saying that they’d find out the FACTS! <3
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I have always felt I have to work twice as hard just to get equal respect from my employers because (this is a direct quote from my boss) “You understand, having a type 1 on the books raises everyone else’s premiums”.
also, have been denied life insurance twice, so I was told I could work while the others went to the explanation of benefits meetings.
Had a new boss come in at one point and announce to my staff, in his experience, type 1s can be volatile (no basis, that one had to go up to HR).
As an extremely hard worker that didn’t want any attention my way (out of fear of losing my insurance), I often ended up neglecting my health so that I would fit in, and no one would notice my type 1.
@ lis be. I’m truly glad that your forwarded that offensive, and critical statement about “type 1s can be volatile” with absolutely no basis for his idiotic statement. What was the outcome of your report to HR, if you don’t mind me asking? Hopefully, he was sent for further training on what he’s allowed to say to employees. Sadly, we can’t, at this moment in time, control his cognitive abilities (thought processing abilities). <3
But only when I was a child/teen.
Wow, have I been blessed. Somehow I always worked in organizations where all staff to the highest in management have totally understood diabetes. Reading the examples in several comments is horrifying. I was always able to be straight forward both with my employer and my staff. Once fellow workers discovered what I was like when my blood sugar dropped, they’d almost automatically bring me a cup of OJ. I was damn lucky to work in such wonderful places.
Yes. In different ways. Back in the early days, before insulin pumps, CGM’s and blood test kits, control of T1D was a challenge, to put it lightly. Tight control meant numerous very low blood glucose daily. Of course, those at work, including supervisors saw this as a severe deficiency. I’m certain that I did not get promotions or consideration for positions for which I was highly qualified. With the development of blood test kits in the mid 1980’s I was able to get some positions. But when the insulin pump came along ( I got mine in 1998), I had a major promotion at work within a year after getting my pump.
Then there were those who accused me of wearing a tape recorder on my belt at work (it was my insulin pump).
I’m sure there were other circumstance, of which I was never made aware, as well.
I have felt stimatised [stigmatized] AND targeted in a negative way because of my T1D, and especially so by a former employer … or rather, uninformed people within the organisation [organization], namely Social Services Department. I’ve been ‘turned down’ for positions and further training based on pure ignorance. Unfortunately, I’ve ‘got a bit of a mouth on me’, and I retaliate, stating that the people interviewing me have been lacking in intelligence, based on their ill-informed judgements [judgments] about diabetes in general, and type 1 diabetes specifically. Of course, this didn’t exactly inspire the ‘offenders’ with any sense of guilt, but once I started writing directly to the Director of Social Services, in the area that I live, it ‘opened the door’, even though the Director was one of the people that I’d openly stated was ignorant of the FACTS. When trying to get the Department to finance my Social Work training, there were all sorts of obstacles and misapprehensions put to me, such as how much studying was involved; that I’d need to work alongside doing the training; that many people ‘drop out’ of the training because of the adverse effects it had on SOME people; that I didn’t need the training as I ‘already knew all there was to be a valuable member of staff’. (I was basically doing the same at work as I was at home with my two very young sons, such as wiping noses and wiping bums, but I knew there had to be more to the job than doing just that.) I believe that I proved that when they decided that I could do the training it was the right decision as I was, at that time, the best Social Worker that the Department had ever seen. 😉
I selected No.
However, if this would be considered a negative experience based on ignorance then yes. There was one time I was having a low bs episode and the person I had an encounter with at work didn’t know I was diabetic and very rude yelling at me and my manager because I was just standing there not doing anything in this woman’s eyes. It never crossed her mind I might need help. That was horrible. On the other hand I had a similar experience with a regular customer who knew my normal demeanor and she noticed me in a similar state one day and got me help immediately.
I had a similar experience, around 1982, when I fell asleep at my desk. I remember people looking into my office. No one came in to see if I was okay. Eventually, I came awake enough to drink some juice. Later, I heard comments about laziness and sleeping at work. I had to explain that I was having a low blood sugar and needed help.
I did when I was younger and people said I could t play sports or go to camp or couldn’t travel but my
Parents would push for it and make it happen. I had once in school when I had a bad low and one of teachers didn’t want to drive me to hospital(in 70’s) cause he heard I’d throw up. Parents didn’t want me to overnight. But that changed when I could advocate for myself. I still have people tell me what I can’t eat. Drives me crazy but I then educate them. I’ve had a podiatrist who assumed I was type 2 and just assumed I
Couldn’t feel my feet
Both in my childhood and as an adult I have had too many occasions when my T!D was used as the reason to exclude me from being included in both social gathering and professional advancement training. Ignorance is never an acceptable excuse, especially when the offender is in a position of authority.
I was denied work opportunities because of it by one particular boss who had total misconceptions about T1D
I took a moment to reflect on times when this happened and the memories that still hurt a bit are mostly times in healthcare settings.
Diagnosed TYPE 1 as an adult I have advantages so many didn’t: competent at my job, confident in myself, and…I’ve already seen the worse (son of the town drunk, poorly educated…). Honestly some have tried and besides daring them to keep up (beating up a house, carrying furniture…), but sometimes there can be honest concern. Last month at the shelter was asked if I should walk a specific dog (high energy, concerned my pump tubing). Shrugged it off, always carry a spare and said I lose a few a month. Did hide it in my shirt because I do get scratched in wrestling matches.
But…I wonder how many school kids I know were impacted not just by diabetes. Some of us were more worried about ourselves.
Years ago, on holiday in Ireland with my family, my (criti-)sisters affronted me with blame for not handling anything in my life correctly. (health, relationship etc.,) It ruined my trip, and I made the decision to no longer just tolerate their abuse. I hitch-hiked to the airport and came home early. My husband greeted me at the airport, and I have never regretted my decision to no longer put up with criticism where my diabetes is concerned.
A co-worker refused to walk to meeting with me. She had a sister with diabetes. She made the comment “I won’t walk with you anywhere because I don’t want to have to save you”. All the rest of the people in the world I’ve encountered have not been negative.
After graduating from a 4 year university in 1968, I was offered a job at a hospital in Galveston, Texas. They would not let me have workers compensation insurance because of my T1D. No problems like that since then, thank goodness.
“I got you some fruit for dessert, because I know you’re a diabetic” – means well, but still can hurt.
Well, yes. 100%.
I was called a “fat, lazy cow” by a close family member. She didn’t consider anything that was happening might be due to T1D. (My doctor at the time doubled my insulin simply because I was soon to be an official teenager. No meters at the time, but I imagine I was constantly LOW and also having to eat too much to keep up with too much insulin.)
Recently, my hard-fought for A1c of 6.5 was called “undesirable.” (I do realize that there are many of you who would consider this too high. I get it! I am impressed and thrilled that you can consistently have your BSes in a “normal” range!! It’s just that I had to work really hard for it so I am happy with my 6.5.) I wrote a letter explaining in no uncertain terms how and why they were wrong and that my A1c should be celebrated instead of receiving negative and judgmental language.
I also explained that using such language could easily set a diabetic back on their T1D journey. (It won’t with me today because I know they are wrong now. When I was younger, it would absolutely have hurt my journey!)
Then there’s the eye doctor who told me I wasn’t doing enough. I’d never met him before and he had no idea what I was doing. Gadzooks! He didn’t last in my roster of doctors.
There are SO many examples of being stigmatized… what I eat or drink, what I do or don’t do, decisions, health outcomes I can’t “control.” It’s mind-boggling!
Yes. My narcissistic, highly-functioning alcoholic father & sister have done it since I was diagnosed in 11/1966. My father made me interview with an insurance agent to participate in buying a life insurance policy at age 17 because he “was not going to pay to bury her!”
My sister declared to the gathered Thanksgiving Dinner crowd of about 30 people: “Becky is a diabetic. There is sugar in everything but the turkey! Becky, you can eat what you can.” She even put sugar in the turkey stuffing! My Mom & I made pies & dishes I could eat every holiday meal after that! We told the sugar-eaters those delicious dishes were off limits!
In 8/2012, my sister & brother-in-law declared that they did not believe I was a diabetic! I was just “faking it to gain attention!” I had been a diabetic for almost 46 years!
Although I had lots of stigmatization from outside the family, the family nastiness was the hardest to deal with. God gave me great doctors, friends, and other relatives. I have to laugh at the foolishness of these people!
I could not get medical insurance or life insurance, etc., my diabetic supplies including insulin were not covered by my medical insurance as a state employee for years and years.
Thank God things are better, but Congress is working to make diabetes and the complications therefrom as inconsequential. I am still working as an attorney at age 74, I have no complications, but I am battling to get my CGM covered with Byram Healthcare who bills me for a years worth of CGMS ($14,840) because they will not bill my Medicare Advantage Plan with Kaiser Permanente as they have been directed to do for 2 years.
100% certain. I was targeted…